Soul Explicit

Sex is everywhere. Whether it be in music videos, magazine ads or in a movie, sex appeal is seen and used everywhere daily. Could this mean it is normal and everyone should be doing it? When do we know we are ready to have sex? Because of the fact I have younger family who I feel I am a role model to, I sometimes wonder (let’s be honest) if the younger generation in my family are having sex and more importantly being protected. It is extremely important that we be comfortable to talk to one another about sex. It may not always be comfortable to some most people to discuss things we consider personal and private but realistically, everyone should have at least on person you can talk to because maybe they can relate or help/be helped by what you have to say.

Teenage pregnancy is nothing new. I’m not against it nor am I telling anyone to have  an abortion, not at all. Yet, I feel like with a little precaution you can avoid having a baby at a young age. There is nothing wrong with a having a child early, but  wouldn’t it be much easier if we were prepared? Think about the financial situation. “Do I have money to raise this child and still live my life the way I want?” Or perhaps the time. “When can I go to school, what if I don’t get enough sleep?” Most importantly, the baby must have support. The grandparent does not have to be a babysitter nor is there a guarentee the babymother/father will stay. These are all the questions that come to mind when I think of having a child at this time in my life. Although I’m not a teenager, I am definitely not equipt to be a father right now. There would be so many sacrifices.

There are plenty ways to prevent having a baby. There is birth control, condoms Nuvo rings and most popular “pulling out,” but nothing is 100%. Accidents can happen, anything is possible. This leads me to believe that no sex is the only safe sex. So when is the appropriate time to start having sex? When we’re 30 because we’re ready for kids? Or when we’re 16 because your curious and your man/woman wants to? Or do we compromise and do it somewhere in the middle where you WANT to have sex but do NOT want a baby BUT could live with it? I feel that you will KNOW when you’re ready and won’t regret it. It doesn’t depend on age as much as it does on your maturity level and where are you at in life. So my question to you is: how old is old enough to have sex?

Note: My intentions are not to offend anyone nor am I picking on anyone in particular.  I know plenty of people who had children at a young age and some are doing very well–and I applaud that. Once again, these are only my opinions to ask a question.
P.S. For y’all who are super sensitive, this is only the beginning. There are many things I want to discuss and I’d like to hear a biased response which isn’t hate-filled. Leave me a comment.